Who should be avoided?
I’ve had my fair share of experiences with certain people claiming that they fit the description of being a “real friend”. However, not only was their declaration of being one totally opposite to what they have become (..or maybe not, since I’m no longer in contact with them), I still forgave and came to terms with the problems they caused.
First and foremost, I am not trying to proclaim that I’m perfect in maintaining a friendship. I also caused my own mistakes and even now, I have not yet apologized for them. However, the reason why I’m sharing this is to express my own views on what an authentic friendship is supposed to be. This is not only for the people out there, but also for myself - to reflect back in time to identify the wrongs and tribulations in maintaining a friendship.
THE THREE TYPES OF FRIENDS I ENCOUNTERED:
1) I came across people who tried to always see the bad within the good. They talked when someone else is happy. They looked for the imperfections when someone is pretty. They looked for bad scores when someone is smart. The bullshit ‘gossips’ were there lives. They didn’t see anything positive, and if they did, it was all about themselves.2) I came across people who were clingy. They tried to control my life; who I should hang out with, what I should do in my spare time, what I should eat during lunch. As much as I hated them for not accepting who I really am, I was very grateful to have met them. I realized that no one should ever persuade someone into something they don’t believe in, and no one should ever stop someone to do what makes them happy.
3) I came across people who could never be trusted. Secrets were slipped in a matter of seconds! The only secrets they kept is if it involved them. People eventually ended up coming up to me and asking if what they’ve heard from _____ is true. I then realized that one should only trust a handful of people and trust should really be gained.Now that I’m no longer in touch with these people, I’m very honored that they have at least made an impact in my life. I’ve learned how to properly choose the right people who I should keep and who I should leave out in my life. I hope this will inspire some of you, to find someone who is worthy enough to give something special, and that is.. friendship.
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